This kind of relationship is what I like to call, “toxic love.”
It’s harmful, you know you should stay away, but for whatever reason you are drawn to it and something inside of you will always want to go back.
Friends never believe when you say it’s over and you find yourself slowly being consumed by this one person. You feel like there is a special bond between the two of you that no one else can understand. But what if that bond is all bullshit?
When you think back on the experiences you’ve had with this person, you kick yourself for putting up with all of the heartache. You then realize for a split second that he/she is a complete asshole.
Before you know it, you’ve wasted six years of your life and all you have to show is some lousy ring that means nothing anymore.
The ring is tainted just like the relationship and now you’ve crossed a line that can never be erased. You’ve said the M word, you’ve acted on it and now he ditched out – just like he always did.
Are you surprised? After all, you had to pinch yourself just to make sure you were awake when he proposed.
While that’s embellished and something I wrote for creative purposes, it all ties into the fact that roller coaster relationships don’t have a happy ending. Once you break up, it will never be the same. You won’t be able to get past the fact that he didn’t want to be your boyfriend and because of that your relationship won’t work out a second, third or fourth time.
Real love isn’t rocky, it doesn’t squeak and it most certainly doesn’t have mechanical problems that leave you hanging at the most inconvenient times, like your wedding day.
So, while putting an end to “toxic love” seems impossible and too painful to bare, it’s not. Dig deep inside before your breaking point and realize what you have isn’t “true love.” Your relationship and the love that you have for each other is a façade – you’ve been hiding it from one another, but you have failed at hiding it from the people who truly love you.
Consider this a warning and the golden rule of dating… you break up once, the relationship is over. There are no apologies or make up sex. If he/she was stupid enough to let you go, don’t let them have the satisfaction of getting you back.