What American Men Can Learn From Foreigners

Foreign men are looked at as two things: hot and a threat to men who aren’t them.

Ask any girl and she will tell you the same thing — accents make us melt. They lure us in with the mystery of the unknown. Our mind instantly wanders to what they can do behind close doors and that’s what American men hate most — until the girl they are in love with, starts dating one.

But there is more to Foreign men than accents and sex appeal.

Take my situation, I never thought I’d be interested in more than sex with someone from a different background. That is until I became a fan of a certain Australian. I now support dating Foreigners and here’s why…

They don’t give a shit how they or your relationship looks to others — that confidence in itself is sexy. They are considerate of your feelings and thoughtful beyond comprehension — and this isn’t just my perspective, it’s what many of my friends who are dating non-Americans will tell you too.

I’m not saying guys from other countries are better; I’m just stating that American men need to establish some of these habits if they want to keep their women around.

For instance, Foreign men are concerned with you and the relationship you two are developing. They do little things to show they care without thinking twice and they don’t do it for attention. They want you to be happy and want to be the reason for your smile.

You never second guess how much they like you because they aren’t scared to tell you. When they want something, they have no shame in making sure it’s known. That reassurance is one thing that most American boyfriends forget and, no matter how confident a women is, she needs to hear it. One of my girlfriends put it into perfect words: “They make you feel like you are the only girl in the room.”

And, while I’m not one to gush, this is true. When I’m around my Aussie, I don’t feel insecure. He’s not looking at anyone else or exchanging numbers with the waitress because we aren’t committed. He’s polite and real  — that’s how he was when I met him and it’s how he’s continued to be. No crazy personality switches or reasons for me to wonder why he hasn’t called. There are no mind games and, after years of dealing with men who mind-fuck the shit out of you, that’s refreshing.

Unlike most American men, they aren’t concerned with image or worried about what they will look like if you screw them over. They don’t feel entitled to make you gain their trust — their ego is not an issue.

Dating someone from a different country is an adventure everyday because you are always learning from each other. Their world becomes apart of yours and they’re excited to expose you to it. Every phrase, word and sports team becomes a second language to you. Just this morning, I caught myself using the word “rang” instead of “called.” While it may seem minor to the normal person, I instantly thought of him.

And while I’m in favor of dating someone from a different country, I’m not 100% sold on dating someone if you are 15,000 miles apart. For me, I need that physical touch and sense of realness. I’m as independent as they come, but a girl can only Skype sex for so long!

I’m aware that my situation may be temporary, but I’m enjoying seeing my world from someone else’s point of view. He is pushing my boundaries and exposing me to so much more than the Hollywood bubble I’ve been living in. It’s a refreshing reminder that there is a world outside of this over-glamorized fake lifestyle that I always thought I wanted.

So, while I continue to watch my girlfriends give their hearts to guys who stomp all over it, I will enjoy the flowers he sent me from Australia, Skype him every morning just to see his face and social network the shit out of him so we can keep in contact. As temporary as our situation might be, I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s worth it — and that’s something I never thought I’d have the balls to admit.

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