First, let me say congratulations to one of my best friends who got engaged tonight. Now that the cats out of the bag, I can go back to conversations where my mind isn’t centered on one thing — not telling her!
This announcement got me thinking of my status and where I am right now. Single and currently on the floor in my bedroom writing this.
You see, I’m not the “typical” girl who dreams of finding her prince charming. I have never dreamt of my wedding day as most girls do. Hell, I’ve tried to avoid the marriage talk all together.
I don’t hold my breath for Mr. Right and I don’t get depressed about being single. To me, single means playtime. Fun all nighters with the girls and flirting our way into clubs and on multiple tables. It’s about living in the moment and being able to do whatever it is that your little heart desires. Not having to answer to a man is like being in heaven with tons of chocolate that can’t make you fat.
And frankly, I’m not even sure there is such thing as a Mr. Right, at least for me. See, I’m what they call a statistic. My parents were divorced; therefore, I am more likely to get divorced.
Breaking up is hard enough and I could never imagine splitting up with someone who I shared my life and soul with. Too me, it is better being alone then ever having to experience that.
So, before you get all sappy and feeling depressed for me, let me tell you of something I do believe in — Mr. Right Now’s or MRN’s as I like to call them.
They fit your lifestyle at the moment and the only aisle you can imagine walking with them down is the grocery store for late night booze.
These are often the guys that you don’t tell many of your girlfriends about and you never talk about MRN’s to your family — they will have too many questions and you won’t know the answers. “Where did you meet him?” –Oh what was that bars name again? “How old is he?”- At least 21, unless that was a fake id. “What does he do for a living?”-We were making out the whole time, never got around to asking. This is NOT the way you want a conversation to go when your dad and grandma are in the room.
Dating is supposed to be about testing the waters and seeing what’s out there, what works for you. I am not saying that marriage isn’t something completely sacred and shouldn’t be held at the highest level by any means.
What I am saying is that it is a personal choice. If you step in that direction, you better be able to handle it when times get tough. You chose this path because you wanted it — so suck it up and stick it out.
Unless he cheats on you. In that case, grab your girls, surround him and repeatedly take turns kicking him in the balls. BOYS…take note!
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First off, Where did you find that poster about Marriage? Nothing but the truth…Love it! Also this Blog has to be my favorite so far and this is why…you make the idea of being single your whole life not that scary. And for someone like me:) who seems to be heading down that road, gives me a very comforting feeling. Thanks friend<3
Being single isn’t scary! Especially with me as your best friend
You have found your true calling! This article is fantastic! I love being in a relationship…but if you’re single…..LIVE IT UP! Why do girls feel the need to be and act desperate….EVERYONE can see right through them…and in the end…they just look pathetic! So….be who you are, chase your dreams, and love yourself for it! If Mr. Right comes around and can hang then let him in and wish him good luck
…if not… move on…have fun…and just do your thing! I am a firm believer in that there is a someone for everyone, they just come at different points and times in your life!
First off, thanks for the shout out! I love what you said here. Relationships aren’t for everyone and I’m glad you’ve brought some light to that. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been a relationship girl my whole life. Maybe it’s because my parents are happily married, I’ve just always known that’s what i wanted. But, there are many women who are aren’t the relationship type and there’s nothing wrong with it. I’m so glad that you’ve chosen to embrace it! I love your attitude and you my friend are so amazing!!
I love this article, but I would just like to say my marriage is awesome. I am so happy with the man I found, and I am so excited to spend the rest of my life with him.. I can hardly wait to see some guy prove you wrong, and when you fall head over heels, you’ll see how great relationships like these are!! I love you..
I feel ya, Whitney. Relationships are hard work and only worth it if you have found Mr. Right. But all the MRN’s are good fun.
MRN’s give us more than a good time for the current moment, they also show us who we DON’T want, and when Mr. Right does come around you will know and not question it. You will start asking yourself, “How did I ever live without you?”
And I can’t wait to meet the man you sweeps you off your feet. He will deserve a gold medal for taming/embracing America’s Wildest Woman!
You nailed it girl….. ouch!!!!
You have plenty of time baby.Enjoy your life,it’s precious. I am an old geiser now, living with a 13 year old girl named SADIE , IN DOG YEARS thats about 91. Ofcourse she is a JACKRUSSEL TERRIER……………….LOVE YOU MUCH…….